#4. START MAKING YOUR OWN HAPPINESS A PRIORITY
We’re on to No.4…woo hoo. Although there are 30 all together. So No.4…is to:
No.4: START MAKING YOUR OWN HAPPINESS A PRIORITY
Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
Which also means:
No.4: STOP PUTTING YOUR OWN NEEDS ON THE BACK BURNER
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN TO ME?
Okay, here’s the thing. I’m smart. I’m savvy. I’m intelligent. I’m practical. And it turns out, absolutely human. I have feelings. I emote. I get snappy. I get furious. I get mad. I sob. I blubber. I weep. I giggle. I look out for myself. I stand up for others. I get jealous. And, yes, I’ve been in situations where I’ve lost myself too.
I thought, in shame, that I’ve usually made my own happiness a priority. Perhaps it’s because I’m an only child? Who knows. I do admit to pockets of extreme selfishness. Yes, I’ve looked out for myself, without cares of others. It wasn’t from a sense of entitlement. I have done what I’ve wanted to do, when I wanted to do it, disregarding others’ needs…with consequences, with sacrifices. And I have been held back by self-sabotage as well.
And yes, I’ve lost myself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting my needs were just as important as theirs. It’s a growing process, that one. In the beginning, you don’t even realize you’re doing it. You just want to please them so much and make them happy. The key, then, is to figure out how to be strong enough to be yourself, be happy, and never to forget you’re special too.
Help them, help yourself.
Value them, value yourself.
Look out for them, while always sticking up for yourself.
That’s them apples, right there.