#5. START BEING YOURSELF, GENUINELY & PROUDLY
We’re on to No.5, which is to:
No.5: START BEING YOURSELF, GENUINELY & PROUDLY
Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
Which also means:
No.5: STOP TRYING TO BE SOMEONE YOU’RE NOT
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN TO ME?
You know when you don’t even know what really makes the real you? I walk around with different personas, different masks that I put on and off, depending on my audience, depending on who I’m with. And, really, truly, that’s who I am. Sometimes I still feel like a giant dork — when surrounded by a very mature, serious audience, or when surrounded by hipsters, but then again it’s because they make feel uncomfortable since I have no energy to front like them.
But I am cheerful, smart, intelligent, and relatively down-to-earth. I say “relatively” because I do have bouts of being a snob about things. *shrug* That’s me. I’m slowly coming to realize I don’t really give a sh*t sometimes — meaning, I don’t always “blend in.” It’s gotten me in trouble, yes, I know. Oops. But hey I learn from it.
Anyways, this being yourself situation gets much easier as you get older. It’s still not easy, per se, but it is getting easier. Mostly because you start to get comfortable with yourself, and more at ease, and you let things go.
But….there’s one thing. I saw a trailer for the movie, “This is 40“….and I totally understand Lesley Mann’s character when she lies about her age. I don’t necessarily lie about my age, but I find the general population don’t believe me when I actually say my age. And… it’s hard to be yourself, when you get older and with it comes expectations from society about what milestones should have already been accomplished. The (not asked for) judgments, the advice, the pity. *le sigh* It’s really hard to keep my chin up about that sometimes, especially being female, because we have biology to think about, which really is a big elephant in the room. What can you do? That’s right, so I enjoy myself every moment of my day. Life is really good this way.
It really is true: Be yourself and the right people will love the real you. Yes, sometimes it’s hard to believe, what with media espousing what is “ideal”. The RIGHT people will love the real you. I know you do….love the real me. For that I’m grateful, and thank you!