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Dragon | get it | Cat Schaff @ Etsy

 

Our deepest fears are like dragons guarding our deepest treasure.

 – Rainier Maria Rilke

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(Kotama Bouabane @ 20×200)

* Excerpt from Not Always Easy | Meant To Be @ DailyOm:

GOALS & DREAMS 

Some of our goals and dreams come to fruition so easily that it is as if an unseen hand has done much of the work for us.  When this happens, we say it must have been meant to be.  

On the other hand, when dreams and goals require a tremendous amount of effort, we may interpret this to mean that our dream is not meant to be.  However, difficulty is not necessarily a sign that our hopes and plans are ill-fated.  On the contrary, difficulties and challenges along the path can be important parts of the project’s overall meaning…

OVERCOMING OBSTACLES 

….There is a unique satisfaction that comes to us when we succeed at something that has been a challenge.  Our sense of self-reliance expands, and our ability to endure and keep the faith is stronger for having been tested.

We learn that we are capable of confronting and overcoming the obstacles in our path, and this empowers us to dream still bigger dreams, knowing that we will not be daunted by the challenges inherent in birthing them. 

CONTINUE OR LET IT GO?

When we find ourselves facing difficulties with a particular plan or project, the chances are we know already whether we are meant to continue on or let it go.  We simply need to look within ourselves for the answer.

When an idea is meant to be, it comes back to us time and time again.  Then we know we can go forward, no matter what challenges arise, knowing that it is meant to be.


– Read the whole article, Not Always Easy | Meant To Be @ DailyOm

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(Catching Stars print by Trafalgar’s Square @ Etsy)

DREAM ON 

You know, “they” always tell us to follow our dreams.  Great advice, of course, but sometimes the message gets muddled.  Muddled with the idea that the pursuit of our dreams may hinder us from appreciating right now, the present, our lives at this very moment. The steam rising from the teacup.  The rhythmic tic-tock as time passes on the clock.  The gentle scent of tuberose left over from a friend’s perfume upon her visit.  The creativity bubbling upon the surface of your thoughts as you type onto the keyboard.  

I’m wondering, maybe this obligatory “follow your dreams” speech is a way of dealing with the normalcy of life?  If we didn’t have our dreams, our fantasies, then we’ll be even more depressed about our so-called unglamorous-ho-hum daily existence.  What a way to fuel the consumerism machine!  Buy this, eat this, watch this, wear this…and you’ll be so very happy…almost as happy as if your dreams actually came true!  

HOPE FLOATS

Lookit, I’m not trying to be a cynic, because my dreams (speaking for myself over here) give me hope, make me smile, make life seem so expansive and possible and full of opportunities and joy.  Call me hokey.  Yet…dreams are futuristic, distant, require a lot of luck, and a bushful of patience.  So what about right now?  How’s life right now?  How’s life while I’m in the process of obtaining my dream?  How’s living my life, daily?  

I could be a grouchy and bitter biyatch, because I could decide to consider my life right now as “temporary” and boring (while waiting for my dreams to come true).  But I’m not.  At least I don’t think I am.  Okay I have my moments, who am I kidding?  But I know tons of folks who have decided to lead a grouchy and bitter life because of their endless dissatisfaction with their right now.  I’m a dreamer, yes…but I’m a Capricorn (ha!) so I’m also a firm believer in being realistic too. 

DUALITY 

Thank goodness!  If I was soley a dreamer, I’d be a grouch…but because I’m also a dual believer I’m able to appreciate the right now, the present, my life as I live it, one day at a time.  No doubt, it took a loooooong time to get here, sugar (I always wanted to say that…sugar, ha!).  But I’m starting to get this “power of now” thinking.  It’s refreshing.  It’s fun.  I’m still working on it — there’re still times when I have to remind myself how good I’ve got it; there’re still times when I have to take a moment and avoid the annoyance bubbling up to bother me.  Life is great, right?  

So, I hope we all choose to be dual citizens — realistic dreamers and believers, appreciators of life right now, grateful for today. You don’t deserve to only be happy once “the future” happens, once your dreams come true, right?  Victory is sweet, yes, but the journey is even sweeter.  

HOGWARTS DELUXE

Now, don’t laugh, but I was reminded of this as I was watching Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone (film). And, just when I needed to hear it the most, I took note and remember to this day, this mooshy but lovely quote (I think it was from Dumbledore to Harry):


“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”

 

Savour it. 

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(Fear is Good card by Amy Ruben Flett @ Etsy)


REJECT [ri-jekt]: (1) to refuse to accept, consider, submit to, take for some purpose, or use; (2) to refuse to hear, receive, or admit; (3) rebuff, repel; (4) to refuse as lover or spouse;  (5) obsolete : to cast off; (6) throw back, repulse.

REJECTION BITES

Forget about the boogie-man or even death for that matter.  Turns out, our deepest fear is rejection.  Our egos are so fragile that we often let life pass us by because we’re afraid of rejection.  Not getting the job, not getting the promotion, not getting the girl/guy, etc.  Thus we’re continually afraid of what might be, could be; of the future; of something, anything, that which we don’t have evidence will even occur.

We’re so afraid of the possibility of failure.  We fear making mistakes.  We’re so afraid to shatter our carefully-constructed egos.  Boy, we sure do give a lot of unnecessary power to this perceived notion of “rejection’!  Guilty party over here [points finger to myself].  Sigh.

THE AVOIDANCE TACTIC

Yet I’m so incredibly clever and creative when it comes to avoiding rejection, by coming up with every excuse possible to avoid rejection and, turns out, avoid living life to the fullest.  Damn, that’s annoying!  We know it, too, don’t we?  Yeah, we do.  We know we do this.  I know I do this.  But we keep on doing it.  We keep on letting rejection get the better of us.  We keep on making excuses, keep on being “safe,” keep on settling for “good enough,” keep on maintaing the status quo, keep on being afraid to rock the boat, keep on living a vanilla existence, keep on being afraid of living our best lives possible, the life we deserve, because we beat ourselves up and think we don’t deserve it after all.

[Before in the past, I have allowed fear to hover over me.  Honestly, had no idea why…that is until I went to counseling, which by the way, is some amazing stuff — how come nobody told me about this before?!? — but I digres.]

We’re damaged in some way; perhaps merely bruised, unfortunately sometimes broken…and this is often what it is that keeps us captive and bonded to fear.  We know this, we do, but for some reason, hardwired or not, we let it happen…we stay complicit.

THE LIGHT

So, one day I’m going about everyday business, not even thinking I fear anything, when I begin to listen…I mean, really listen, to a broadcast of Tapestry on CBC radio with a another feature with Rabbi Harold Kushner, this time focusing on his book about fear.  He goes into how rejection is our big-ticket fear.  Yet our spiritual guides out there, including God in the Bible, continually remind us to “Fear not.” Rabbi Kushner states that “being afraid diminishes our humanity.  If we let fear take over our lives, our humanity is diminished.” (Part I – another Rabbi Kushner post is here).

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(Journeys & Dreams card by Pretty Day @ Etsy)


If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.  (Rabbi Harold Kushner)

THE TYRANNY OF OUR DREAMS

I first came cross Rabbi Harold Kushner in March 2008 (so long ago!!) when the CBC Radio show Tapestry featured an interview with him.  Everything he spoke about resonated with me, and looking back I realize I was meant to hear it.  The topic at hand?  Fear. 

The interview scaffolds the work of psychologist Daniel Levinson who determined that much of the unhappiness of people halfway through life is due to the “tyranny of their dreams.”  That is, we all start out with great dreams, great expectations for our lives, but so often relinquish those dreams when obstacles deter our way.  Our dreams are then deferred or go astray.  In the interview, Rabbi Harold Kushner discusses ways we can weather the disillusionment (and obstacles) we all face in life.

OVERCOMING FEAR 

The rabbi spoke of many things I’m sure, but I remember only:  Fear not.  

Fear not.  So simple.  But we forget.  And we cling to fear even more.  Fear is so often something we hold on to so tight that we don’t even notice it’s within us anymore.  This seems rather dangerous….I mean, how can we dissipate fear within us if we can’t even admit it’s there?  (Whether it’s due to pride, denial, or lack of presence and authenticity inside you).  

When we face an obstacle in the path toward our dreams, more often than not, we give up.  We give in to fear.  We cover up our dreams with excuses (surrounding security, family, money, time, age, etc).  We abandon our dreams for “later”.  And “later” never appears. 

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